Blended Family, Co-parenting, Marriage & Family, Parenting, Stepfamily

To Quit or Not To Quit-The Blended Family Struggle

No matter who you are or where you are in life, we will all face times where you have to make a choice to give up and quit, or push through and persevere. At times, quitting seems like the logical, or maybe the easy thing to do. However, do you ever stop to think about what would happen if you chose to persevere? 

In this era of social media, stories of challenges and victories are everywhere. Whether you are a Christian or not, the story of Joseph and his coat of many colors is a great tale of perseverance that many have heard about. If you are not famiiar with it, here is a quick summation. God gave him a great dream, which he shared with his “blended family.” He was, then, thrown into a pit to die by his own brothers, he was sold into slavery, and if that wasn’t bad enough, he was later imprisoned for a crime he didn’t commit.

Through his entire life, with all the troubles and disappointments, Joseph continued to push on. Think about how hard it must have been for Joseph, all those years of suffering and not knowing why. When there was finally a ray of sun shining in his life, there was yet another setback to overcome. But what Joseph didn’t know, as many of us in our own battles, was that God was up to something…something good.

In our life, when we are going through struggles, we turn a blind eye to what God is doing, we focus on how challenging the situation is, and immediately throw ourselves a pity party. We all have a choice in how we respond in these moments. You can get anchored in the mindset of defeat and hopelessness, or you can choose to seek God’s guidance and direction to decipher what He is doing in you in this process.

After all the trials, and because of his faithfulness, we see God lift Joseph up and place him in a position of great authority and honor. God did something in Joseph that was only accomplished as he walked through these horrible moments in his life. 

In your blended family, how many times have you felt like Joseph? Feeling like you are in the pit or, worse yet, serving a prison sentence you don’t feel you did anything to deserve.

Being in a blended family doesn’t always feel ideal. At times, you may have felt like this was a huge mistake and it’s never going to get any better. It’s at these times, that you have to hold on to God’s promises and remember that He’s got this. Just like Joseph, if you continue to do what God calls you to do and persevere, He will do something in you, and your family, that you would never be able to do on your own.

We pray that in your moment of struggle, you seek God. He is the one that will bring all the pieces together to work for good. We know that God will do a mighty work in your family. It’s His promise.

“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.

Galatians‬ ‭6:9‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Marriage & Family

A Marriage MUST-Don’t miss it!

As the new year rolls in, many people begin with setting resolutions for the next 12 months. In this era of social media, many of those resolutions are posted for all to see online. Some of the more popular posts involve getting healthier and spending more time with family. Although these are great goals, it is rare to see ones where couples are posting about resolving to have more date nights and strengthen their marriage. With the divorce rate in the country at around 50%, why is it that couples are not being more intentional about setting goals for their marriage and relationships? 

In the home, the marriage is the backbone of the family. The family will only be as strong as the marriage. Spiritual, emotional, and physical connection is important for the health of both the couple and the family. How intentional are you being about this in your relationship? The busyness of life has us going in multiple directions on a daily basis, which is generally what we use as the excuse for not having more regularly scheduled date nights. “I’m too tired” is likely the overused statement when it comes to spending time together. With children, work, school, and even pets continually vying for our time and attention, we definitely understand that the struggle is real. So, realistically, how do we maintain a strong connection with our spouse amidst the craziness of it all?

The one thing we know with certainty is that we have to be intentional. Schedule regular date nights and time together with your spouse and put them on the calendar. Making sure this time is on the calendar will keep you accountable and will magnify the importance of having time together as a couple, as lovers. It will also help to set clear expectations for you and your spouse, help to set boundaries to protect your relationship, and, of course, set a great example for your children, who are ALWAYS watching.

One day, you will wake up and the noise of life will have lessened, the overfilled schedules would have become a thing of the past, and the children will now be adults of their own and no longer under your care. The hope is that this person that stood excitedly alongside you at the inception of the relationship, is still firmly and intimately connected to you, and ready to enjoy the next season with even more passion and enthusiasm than when the adventure began.

Live happily with the woman you love through all the meaningless days of life that God has given you under the sun. The wife God gives you is your reward for all your earthly toil. – Ecclesiastes 9:9