As we sit and talk about the twists and turns that our life together has taken, it is unbelievable to think that 11 years ago, when we first met, that counseling marriages and blended families would be what God had brought us together to do.
At the time we met, I had been divorced with a young daughter for close to 2 years. My husband was also divorced and had 3 young daughters of his own. I had no intention of getting married at the time and it definitely wasn’t going to be with someone in the military and with more kids. However, it seemed God had different plans. Long story short, we fell in love, got married, and decided we were going to be one big happy family. Boy, I could not fathom back then what was in store for us! At first, everything was coming together pretty well. I loved him and he loved me. But it didn’t take very long before the bumps in our blending process started to show signs of cracks. It started with little disagreements about the kids. You know the small things…like co-parenting with the ex and how we were supposed to discipline the kids. It didn’t take us very long before we realized we needed some help in this blended family mess.
At first, we had no clue where to look. I just knew we needed help. In the beginning, we had never even heard of a “blended family.” I didn’t know anything else to do but pray. Our saving grace came one day when we were sitting in church. I was reading the announcements on the church bulletin and noticed they offered a class for blended families. God answered my prayer! I was so excited as I read about the class and I knew instantly this was exactly what I had been praying for. It was during that class that God spoke to us concerning not only our family and marriage, but also what He had planned for us for the future; to share and help with other families who struggle in marriage and the blending of their families.
Today, we sit and talk with many blended families. As we go through the process ourselves, we can empathize with many of the challenges in this type of family dynamic. Since passion typically births from past pain, it may be safe to say this is where our burden and calling lies-to help others and encourage them with the proper tools and resources to, not only succeed in the blending process, but to thrive and help break the chains of divorce for their future generations. In this way, through the sharing of our experience, our brokenness, and our journey, we hope to inspire a ripple effect of healthy marriages and families, one family at a time…and with God at the helm.