As the new year rolls in, many people begin with setting resolutions for the next 12 months. In this era of social media, many of those resolutions are posted for all to see online. Some of the more popular posts involve getting healthier and spending more time with family. Although these are great goals, it is rare to see ones where couples are posting about resolving to have more date nights and strengthen their marriage. With the divorce rate in the country at around 50%, why is it that couples are not being more intentional about setting goals for their marriage and relationships?
In the home, the marriage is the backbone of the family. The family will only be as strong as the marriage. Spiritual, emotional, and physical connection is important for the health of both the couple and the family. How intentional are you being about this in your relationship? The busyness of life has us going in multiple directions on a daily basis, which is generally what we use as the excuse for not having more regularly scheduled date nights. “I’m too tired” is likely the overused statement when it comes to spending time together. With children, work, school, and even pets continually vying for our time and attention, we definitely understand that the struggle is real. So, realistically, how do we maintain a strong connection with our spouse amidst the craziness of it all?
The one thing we know with certainty is that we have to be intentional. Schedule regular date nights and time together with your spouse and put them on the calendar. Making sure this time is on the calendar will keep you accountable and will magnify the importance of having time together as a couple, as lovers. It will also help to set clear expectations for you and your spouse, help to set boundaries to protect your relationship, and, of course, set a great example for your children, who are ALWAYS watching.
One day, you will wake up and the noise of life will have lessened, the overfilled schedules would have become a thing of the past, and the children will now be adults of their own and no longer under your care. The hope is that this person that stood excitedly alongside you at the inception of the relationship, is still firmly and intimately connected to you, and ready to enjoy the next season with even more passion and enthusiasm than when the adventure began.
Live happily with the woman you love through all the meaningless days of life that God has given you under the sun. The wife God gives you is your reward for all your earthly toil. – Ecclesiastes 9:9